Friday, February 6, 2009

Why so many???


We often get this question about why so many children. Sometimes it's worded just that way and sometimes worded a little more tactfully. Either way we aren't offended by their curiosity, and see it as an open to door to share "our" beliefs and who we are. I've pondered for months on how to write this post. Today seemed like the day so, if you've ever wondered Why so's why!

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Elizabeth, Rebekah,Wesley, Madison, & Amanda
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James, William, Jonathan, & Stephen

Before Arthur and I got married we prayed and discussed about how many children we wanted to have, how we would discipline, and parent our children. We agreed on everything 100% and both wanted 4 children, we both come from a family with 4 children. So, that's where or views started on having children before the "I do" !

Our first child Elizabeth was born in March 1992, and we were so excited to be parents. We played, loved, and marveled at her every move. Often times not knowing as parents if we were doing all that was right...Elizabeth the first child and the guinea pig to ALL our parenting techniques. We received lots of advice from ladies at church and our parents. When Elizabeth was born we wondered where her instruction book was?! Amanda was our next girl blessing and she was born August 1993. She was a very different baby than Elizabeth, this is the first sign of oh' all babies aren't the same. Amanda was very easy going and content, not like Elizabeth who required lots of attention and entertainment. I was amazed just how different they were, yet I knew God created them perfect. They played so well together and truly complemented each other with their differences. February 1995 rolled around and our Rebekah was born. Thinking I'm getting better at the baby thing, Rebekah threw us for a loop. Three children under 3, 2 parents and only 2 sets of hands. In those first few months we had to develop a game plan and strategy or these 3 small girls were going to get the best of us. It took sometime and we became more and more organized. (You know I'm a perfectionist by nature, but those babies didn't care. This is when I started to see I had to be fluid in my ways.) Thankfully Rebekah was a delightful baby a true mix of Elizabeth and Amanda. Rebekah with her smile and love for life keeps us all laughing and entertained! Two years later 1997 again in February we were blessed with the FIRST of our string of boys Madison.Life had a twist now we had a boy and boy toys! Madison was our biggest baby at 8.13, he also was the most laid back. He was such an easy baby. We were also beginning to see that 3 was hard but 4 came pretty easy. At this point we had our 4 children just what "we" had planned.

The spring of 1998 we found out that we were expecting baby #5, our plans were changing in MANY ways! The biggest change NOT being that we were expecting #5. The big change came when I was 16 weeks pregnant with Jonathan. I went in for a routine ultrasound, but on that day we received news that there was something wrong with our baby. The next day I was sent to the high risk doctor for a in depth ultrasound, to see what problems our baby might have. We had told the doctor we didn't want to know what our baby was going to be. As the ultrasound went on and they continued to name off all the things wrong with our baby stomach blockage, fluid on his brain, and numerous tumors around his placenta. We decided we wanted to know was this a boy or girl? They told us that we were having a boy. That was right before I had my amnio. Jonathan's amniotic fluid was very dark from the tumors leaking into the placenta, so they couldn't draw fluids from there. The doctor had to go further and place the needle straight into Jonathan's umbilical cord and draw blood. We left that day feeling very sad, but praying hard that God would preform a miracle...Not one of complete healing but that He would give us the gift of this child living. Only 3 days later (because they tested blood and not fluid) we found out the news that Jonathan was going to be blessed with an extra chromosome...He was going to be our special boy with Down Syndrome. I could go on and on about his health problems but not for this post, sorry. It was a Friday night when we received the call from Dr. Adair to tell us about their findings, yet in our hearts we already knew. He had Arthur and I both on the phone and he ask us this question "do you want to terminate this pregnancy"? Arthur and I neither one had to think and both answered "NO" right away. His next words were "Good, I have to tell everyone this" he went on to say "if you did choose to terminate what a wonderful blessing you would be missing out on". I can't express in words how right he was in saying that, even with all the delays, sickness, and hard times Jonathan is like looking at a little piece of Heaven on earth...even on his stubborn days :)

During Jonathan's pregnancy and after his birth is when God, started moving our hearts and "our" choice on how many children we should have. We saw the miracle in birth and life with each child, but with Jonathan it was another confirmation on how priceless and precious each child is...truly a gift only given by HIM! From the beginning of our marriage we chose to live for the Lord and have Him lead our marriage, yet we held back one thing we would choose the number of children. We knew then that meant giving it ALL to Him, even if that meant how many children He would bless us with.

In November 2000 James was born, 2 years and 1 month after Jonathan. The pregnancy with James was a breeze, and I was looking forward to having a buddy for Jonathan. James was a very calm baby and learned to do lots of things right along with could have been all the therapy James had to attend with Jonathan :) After the first year James started to pass Jonathan up in areas, but James was a great encourager for Jonathan pushing him to go the extra mile. Stephen came October 2002 it seemed like time was flying by having 7 children to keep us busy. Stephen was a quite baby always taking everything in, but once he was mobile he became our sneaky mess. I believe now he was quite and always watching to see later what to get into. We now had 3 girls and 4 boys, life was very full and happy.

December 2003 HIT! This wasn't another baby but colon cancer for Arthur. He had his surgery December 1, 2003. He then started chemo January 6, 2004....Life was really upside down. On Arthur's first day of chemo we were sitting waiting for them to come and put in his port, I ask him "do you think we can have more children"? Arthur said he didn't know but we should ask. When the nurse came in Arthur ask her, she looked a little surprised. She then proceeded to tell us if we wanted more children as a sure thing we should not go through with the chemo today, and get information about a sperm bank ( I can't believe I just wrote those words). She told us to take a few minutes to talk and walked out. My heart sank but I didn't speak. Arthur being the level headed one looks at me and says " Laura I know how much children mean to you and me, but if we used a sperm bank than who would be in control"? I knew the answer, because of our convictions and because we had placed this is the Lords hands 5 years before. Arthur started his chemo that day, and we never looked back. UNTIL January 19 just 13 days after Arthur had started chemo, that day I found out I was pregnant with William. You see the Lord knew our hearts and had already placed a babe within my womb...before the chemo...God is good all the time!!!! Arthur would say as he went through chemo that his present at the end of treatments would be his new baby. September 8, 2004 William joined our family just 2 months after Arthur's last round of chemo. William looks so much like Arthur and is natured very much like his daddy. Arthur was then told that because of the chemo he was given that his chances of having other children was only about 10%. Arthur continued to say if the Lord wants us to have more children it doesn't matter that they say 10%. Well, on March 7, 2007 we welcomed Wesley into our family. Wesley was a fuzzy headed little guy and required lots of attention. He required the attention because he was accustom to having it 24/7 from all his siblings. Now he is a very busy almost 2 year old.

This past summer I wrote HERE about a journey in my life at that time. I didn't go into detail about this journey, but told about the places the Lord had taken me. On July 7, 2008 the Lord chose to call home a child that I still held within me. One I had carried not only under my heart but in my heart. I was several months along, yet very few people knew. This is the first time I've truly spoken about our baby who is being held in the arms of the Lord. This baby would now be 3 weeks old, and the sadness hasn't fully gone away. I praise the Lord daily for carrying me through our lose and loving me. I know one day we shall see our child in eternity.

That brings us to today! The Lord has seen fit to bless us AGAIN!!!! The Lord willing we will be adding an addition to our family the end of August! I am 10 weeks along, and have been very sick not morning sickness ALL DAY sickness! Funny thing is I'm so very thankful for the sickness I know that means things are... we pray progressing well. I'll have an ultrasound done next week. I would appreciate your prayers, not because of my sickness BUT for the health of our baby. For we know each child is a gift from above a wonderful blessing.... as Arthur says "10% you can't tell God the creator 10% chance"!

Behold, children are a gift from the Lord; The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of ones youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; They shall not be ashamed when they speak with their enemies in the gate.

Psalms 127:3-5

About the instruction book we laughed about and said we didn't receive when Elizabeth was born. We did have the instruction book all along The Bible God's Holy Word! This is the book in which we get our direction.

I know not everyone believes the same way we do, I hope this gives you a better idea for us why so many !

UPDATE: Our latest blessings....

September 9, 2009

"Ruth Ella" Katherine Munck

May 8, 2011

"Mary Ann" Faith Munck


Christine said...

I just wrote this really long comment and it was eaten up by the world wide web! So let me start again. :) WOW! I loved reading about the choices you both have made. I guess we really do have a lot in common. It also explains why you are curious about cloth diapering, I couldn't fathom why you'd want to put a two year old in cloth, now. :) We really need to get together and talk now! These little newborn diapers are scrumptious!
I am so excited for you all, I know this little one will be spoiled rotten with love!
Christine @ Live to Learn

Lyndi said...

Laura, what a blessing! Congratulations on your new baby! You and your family will be in my prayers.

I'd like to tell you that the pain of mis-carriage will go away, but you will always remmeber that baby. I lost a baby before getting pregnant with Jessie. We still mourn for it, but we know it is in God's arms.

I pray you have a healthy and easy pregnancy and a happy healthy baby. Maybe you'll get another girl this time??!!

Mommy to those Special Ks said...

WOOOHOOO!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I'm very excited for you! :)

Christina said...

Man Laura, I really hope we get to meet one day...You guys are just amazing...I am sorry for the loss last year and I am praying for your babies health. I agree..You can't tell God how things are! You can not put God in a box!!!

Candi said...

Thanks for sharing your story. It reminds me to ask myself "who's in control?" when it comes to the number of children we will have

Mrs. Tara said...

I am so very excited. As I told you before- I can't wait to hold this little friend! Oh- all the loving and kisses I am going to get to give this little blessing. Thanks for allowing Mike and I to love on your kiddos. What a gift to us. Oh, Oh I am so excited!

Amy said...

What a moving story!

Congrats on your newest blessing!

tlstaz6543 said...

Laura!! Congratulations!! I have got to get there to see you guys...I usually would come on Saturday mornings but right now I have a standing appt then and cant get there...I'll have to explain that in person..long story.

I'm so happy for you guys...I knew pretty much most of this except for the miscarriage obviously...I'm sorry for that but I know God is taking much better care in Heaven than can be done on earth.

Love you guys!!

oh, and give my Jonathan a hug for me. You can actually give all of them one but they don't know me and might think it's kinda strange. lol :)

tf said...

I have been following your blog for months but this is my very first comment :)
I am so happy for your family, what a full life of miracles you live! Praying for the health and safety of your newest blessing. Congrats :)

Amy said...

CONGRATULATIONS!!! We will be close to each other with this pregnancy. I'm close to 9 weeks but will go to the midwife for my 1st visit on Tuesday along with ultrasound. I will know better about the date after that day. Hope you get to feeling better. I've been feeling the same way. It comes and goes all day long. I too have lost a child. It happened for us after baby number four and then the Lord blessed us with another 2 weeks later. Once again, congratulations. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family.

Caribbean Cindy said...

Such a BEAUTIFUL post, Laura. I was really blessed reading this. Congratulations on this future little blessing! I will be praying for everything to be go great! We, too, have a child in Heaven that I can't wait to be acquainted with someday!

Dee Dee said...

Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you guys. I will be praying for you and your family!!

Sunny said...

I loved this post! Congratulations!!! I am so excited for you. I hope your pregnancy progresses well, and good luck with the morning sickness. I feel your pain. I'm just barely starting to feel like I can keep my meals down.

Amanda said...

Oh,Laura! I am so happy for you. As I got to the end of the post and read your news, I hollered into Phil relaying that you are expecting again. His response, "Way to go, Arthur!" He loves him so much!
What a blessing your family is! Not just to you & Arthur, but to all of us who count you as friends. Yay,Muncks!! God is so good! All glory to Him from Whom all blessings flow! xoxoxo Amanda

Anonymous said...


Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you.:)


Kelly said...

CONGRATULATIONS...I love you and am so excited for you guys. Kinda funny, I was just asking the girls last week when their mama was gonna have another sweet baby... haha...You are blessed and I only wish I could have "to many". We will be praying for you!!!

So thankful He gives good and perfect gifts,
Kelly Bigham

Mark and Rosalie Pauls and family said...

Great post! It's always encouraging to hear other families journey of faith.

Congrats again on another little blessing. Will be praying for you as you have your ultrasound.

Traci said...

Well, I have to admit - I've known "accidentally" for a couple of weeks but didn't want to say anything to you until you offically announced it!! Congratulations!! I am very happy for you. I also was not aware that you had miscarried this summer. I know the pain of losing a child and will be praying for you. Don't know if you know or not, but I am also pregnant again - almost 13 weeks, also due in August. So we will have little ones growing up together! Wow, this is a long comment..I guess I'll go now. You are in my prayers.


Ruby's Mom said...

I have 11 wonderful blessings.
I found your blog link on Kwisteena's Kwaziness.

Holly said...

Laura, thanks for this blog. You do an amazing job and I feel the Lord blesses others through this.
Congratualations! I am sorry you are feeling bad, but agree with you that the sickness is an encouragement that the baby is progressing.
I have a baby in the arms of Jesus that I fully believe I will see one day. I do understand your pain.
God is faithful as you have found on many ocassions.
Thanks for sharing. Love Ya!

Laura said...

What a wonderful post, and a great surprise at the end!! Congratulations! :) Your family is an inspiration to me. I don't know if I've mentioned this before, but I have felt for a few years now that God is going to bless with a Downs syndrome baby...either biologically or by adoption. Your Jonathan just seems so sweet and, although there is so much that I don't know about raising a "special needs" child, I wouldn't be the least bit disappointed to find out that I was expecting one. God's ways are perfect and you are an encouragement to me!

Michelle said...

I'm trying to get caught up on some blog reading and just read the news! Congratulations to your family! How very exciting!! Many prayers coming your way!

Theresa said...

I have been away from your blog too long girl! Congratulations. I'm bawling. I am crying because I am happy. I am crying because Jonathan is #5 and you were only going to have 4!. I am crying because the doctors said there was only a 10% chance for more children.