We often get this question about why so many children. Sometimes it's worded just that way and sometimes worded a little more tactfully. Either way we aren't offended by their curiosity, and see it as an open to door to share "our" beliefs and who we are. I've pondered for months on how to write this post. Today seemed like the day so, if you've ever wondered Why so Many...here's why!
Elizabeth, Rebekah,Wesley, Madison, & Amanda
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James, William, Jonathan, & Stephen
Before Arthur and I got married we prayed and discussed about how many children we wanted to have, how we would discipline, and parent our children. We agreed on everything 100% and both wanted 4 children, we both come from a family with 4 children. So, that's where or views started on having children before the "I do" !
Our first child Elizabeth was born in March 1992, and we were so excited to be parents. We played, loved, and marveled at her every move. Often times not knowing as parents if we were doing all that was right...Elizabeth the first child and the guinea pig to ALL our parenting techniques. We received lots of advice from ladies at church and our parents. When Elizabeth was born we wondered where her instruction book was?! Amanda was our next girl blessing and she was born August 1993. She was a very different baby than Elizabeth, this is the first sign of oh' all babies aren't the same. Amanda was very easy going and content, not like Elizabeth who required lots of attention and entertainment. I was amazed just how different they were, yet I knew God created them perfect. They played so well together and truly complemented each other with their differences. February 1995 rolled around and our Rebekah was born. Thinking I'm getting better at the baby thing, Rebekah threw us for a loop. Three children under 3, 2 parents and only 2 sets of hands. In those first few months we had to develop a game plan and strategy or these 3 small girls were going to get the best of us. It took sometime and we became more and more organized. (You know I'm a perfectionist by nature, but those babies didn't care. This is when I started to see I had to be fluid in my ways.) Thankfully Rebekah was a delightful baby a true mix of Elizabeth and Amanda. Rebekah with her smile and love for life keeps us all laughing and entertained! Two years later 1997 again in February we were blessed with the FIRST of our string of boys Madison.Life had a twist now we had a boy and boy toys! Madison was our biggest baby at 8.13, he also was the most laid back. He was such an easy baby. We were also beginning to see that 3 was hard but 4 came pretty easy. At this point we had our 4 children just what "we" had planned.
The spring of 1998 we found out that we were expecting baby #5, our plans were changing in MANY ways! The biggest change NOT being that we were expecting #5. The big change came when I was 16 weeks pregnant with Jonathan. I went in for a routine ultrasound, but on that day we received news that there was something wrong with our baby. The next day I was sent to the high risk doctor for a in depth ultrasound, to see what problems our baby might have. We had told the doctor we didn't want to know what our baby was going to be. As the ultrasound went on and they continued to name off all the things wrong with our baby stomach blockage, fluid on his brain, and numerous tumors around his placenta. We decided we wanted to know was this a boy or girl? They told us that we were having a boy. That was right before I had my amnio. Jonathan's amniotic fluid was very dark from the tumors leaking into the placenta, so they couldn't draw fluids from there. The doctor had to go further and place the needle straight into Jonathan's umbilical cord and draw blood. We left that day feeling very sad, but praying hard that God would preform a miracle...Not one of complete healing but that He would give us the gift of this child living. Only 3 days later (because they tested blood and not fluid) we found out the news that Jonathan was going to be blessed with an extra chromosome...He was going to be our special boy with Down Syndrome. I could go on and on about his health problems but not for this post, sorry. It was a Friday night when we received the call from Dr. Adair to tell us about their findings, yet in our hearts we already knew. He had Arthur and I both on the phone and he ask us this question "do you want to terminate this pregnancy"? Arthur and I neither one had to think and both answered "NO" right away. His next words were "Good, I have to tell everyone this" he went on to say "if you did choose to terminate what a wonderful blessing you would be missing out on". I can't express in words how right he was in saying that, even with all the delays, sickness, and hard times Jonathan is like looking at a little piece of Heaven on earth...even on his stubborn days :)
During Jonathan's pregnancy and after his birth is when God, started moving our hearts and "our" choice on how many children we should have. We saw the miracle in birth and life with each child, but with Jonathan it was another confirmation on how priceless and precious each child is...truly a gift only given by HIM! From the beginning of our marriage we chose to live for the Lord and have Him lead our marriage, yet we held back one thing we would choose the number of children. We knew then that meant giving it ALL to Him, even if that meant how many children He would bless us with.
In November 2000 James was born, 2 years and 1 month after Jonathan. The pregnancy with James was a breeze, and I was looking forward to having a buddy for Jonathan. James was a very calm baby and learned to do lots of things right along with Jonathan...it could have been all the therapy James had to attend with Jonathan :) After the first year James started to pass Jonathan up in areas, but James was a great encourager for Jonathan pushing him to go the extra mile. Stephen came October 2002 it seemed like time was flying by having 7 children to keep us busy. Stephen was a quite baby always taking everything in, but once he was mobile he became our sneaky mess. I believe now he was quite and always watching to see later what to get into. We now had 3 girls and 4 boys, life was very full and happy.
December 2003 HIT! This wasn't another baby but colon cancer for Arthur. He had his surgery December 1, 2003. He then started chemo January 6, 2004....Life was really upside down. On Arthur's first day of chemo we were sitting waiting for them to come and put in his port, I ask him "do you think we can have more children"? Arthur said he didn't know but we should ask. When the nurse came in Arthur ask her, she looked a little surprised. She then proceeded to tell us if we wanted more children as a sure thing we should not go through with the chemo today, and get information about a sperm bank ( I can't believe I just wrote those words). She told us to take a few minutes to talk and walked out. My heart sank but I didn't speak. Arthur being the level headed one looks at me and says " Laura I know how much children mean to you and me, but if we used a sperm bank than who would be in control"? I knew the answer, because of our convictions and because we had placed this is the Lords hands 5 years before. Arthur started his chemo that day, and we never looked back. UNTIL January 19 just 13 days after Arthur had started chemo, that day I found out I was pregnant with William. You see the Lord knew our hearts and had already placed a babe within my womb...before the chemo...God is good all the time!!!! Arthur would say as he went through chemo that his present at the end of treatments would be his new baby. September 8, 2004 William joined our family just 2 months after Arthur's last round of chemo. William looks so much like Arthur and is natured very much like his daddy. Arthur was then told that because of the chemo he was given that his chances of having other children was only about 10%. Arthur continued to say if the Lord wants us to have more children it doesn't matter that they say 10%. Well, on March 7, 2007 we welcomed Wesley into our family. Wesley was a fuzzy headed little guy and required lots of attention. He required the attention because he was accustom to having it 24/7 from all his siblings. Now he is a very busy almost 2 year old.
This past summer I wrote HERE about a journey in my life at that time. I didn't go into detail about this journey, but told about the places the Lord had taken me. On July 7, 2008 the Lord chose to call home a child that I still held within me. One I had carried not only under my heart but in my heart. I was several months along, yet very few people knew. This is the first time I've truly spoken about our baby who is being held in the arms of the Lord. This baby would now be 3 weeks old, and the sadness hasn't fully gone away. I praise the Lord daily for carrying me through our lose and loving me. I know one day we shall see our child in eternity.
That brings us to today! The Lord has seen fit to bless us AGAIN!!!! The Lord willing we will be adding an addition to our family the end of August! I am 10 weeks along, and have been very sick not morning sickness ALL DAY sickness! Funny thing is I'm so very thankful for the sickness I know that means things are... we pray progressing well. I'll have an ultrasound done next week. I would appreciate your prayers, not because of my sickness BUT for the health of our baby. For we know each child is a gift from above a wonderful blessing.... as Arthur says "10% you can't tell God the creator 10% chance"!
Behold, children are a gift from the Lord; The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of ones youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; They shall not be ashamed when they speak with their enemies in the gate.
About the instruction book we laughed about and said we didn't receive when Elizabeth was born. We did have the instruction book all along The Bible God's Holy Word! This is the book in which we get our direction.
I know not everyone believes the same way we do, I hope this gives you a better idea for us why so many !
UPDATE: Our latest blessings....
September 9, 2009
"Ruth Ella" Katherine Munck
May 8, 2011
"Mary Ann" Faith Munck