Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Courting Candles

From Drafts May 2013:
Have you ever seen or heard about these candles?
We saw them in a store and thought they were just to funny...
But at one time they were the real deal.
These candles sold for $29-$39



This sign hanging with the candles.

Here is a bit of history behind the courting candle:
In the 1600's to the 1800's, courting candles were used by the man of the home to set boundaries for his daughter. When the daughter's suitor came calling, the father lit the candle in a sitting room where the couple conversed. When the candles burnt to the metal at the top of the candle holder, it was time for the suitor to promptly leave. However, the father could change the height of the candle based on how comfortable he felt about the suitor. Also, the father could immediately snuff out the candle or add a second candle depending on what he deemed necessary. The courting candle served as a quiet, yet firm reminder to the suitor to end his date.

Rich or poor, the courting candle was used by fathers from all economic backgrounds. It taught daughters to respect their parents' judgment. The candle also taught the suitor to defer to the father's ability to judge a man. Although it may sound like a crazy notion by today's standards, the courting candle served as an important boundary line in the family and social fabrics.



Here are few different styles of courting candles.....

      

 
I really enjoyed learning about the courting candle, isn't history just fascinating? And for those enquiring minds, NO we didn't buy a courting candle :) We just found them very unique,
 we actually own a candle holder much like the one in the middle picture...
It's very old and was passed down to us from Arthur's aunt.
You never know it could have been a courting candle :)

8 comments:

Amy Joy said...

OH this is so funny! I never knew about this.

Juanita Unrau said...

:) First thing that came to my mind when I saw this title was, which one of your other daughters is courting.....interesting history, though. I remember learning about tallow candles when I was about 10, on a field trip, but the REAL lessons was taking one home and burning it during supper and seeing just how fast it goes down......

Karen said...

I never knew about this either -- what a cool thing to know! Although I would have a hard time paying $40 for such a thing, you've prompted me to go Google courting candles (ahhhh, earworm!). LOL.

Nikki said...

How interesting. Thanks for sharing. :) I love history like that.

Megan said...

That's cool! :)

KULLA'S JOURNEY said...

I've heard about these before. I have a candle holder like the ones you have pictured (hadn't seen the coiled candles before). By the way, I really like your new picture at the top of your blog!

© Annie W.-T. said...

I seen the candles before but never knew about the history...very very interesting.

Maybe one day I will buy it for my sil & brother when their daughter is old enough to date...lol.



The Pauls' Family said...

Wow! Never heard of that before!!!